Spanking and whipping

Spanking is one of the classics in erotic power exchange. The term spanking is usually used for anything that has to do with spanking the bottom. In general, no other parts of the body are involved. Purist spankers will only accept spanking as spanking when it is done by hand, but often the back of hair brushes, table tennis bats, slippers, a swat or small leather devices, sometimes shaped in the form of a hand can be used.

Within the spanking scene, there are two general types of spanking, and several types of spanking relationships to encapsulate them. These two main categories still provide a lot of room for subtle nuances. These main categories are Sensual/Erotic, and Disciplinary/Domestic Discipline.

Using whips and spanking paddles is a harmless and provocative way of spicing up your sex life and opening up new sexual avenues for you and your partner to explore. Just like bondage and other BDSM activities, spanking and whipping are naughty pleasures that serve as a great introduction to the wider S&M arena.

Indulge yourself and your partner in some punishment role play by using a whip or spanking paddle to dish out small amounts of pain in response to naughty activities.

Pain can be an overwhelming sensation that will boost your orgasms to new levels, due to the brain releasing chemicals called endorphins to help reduce the pain caused by a spank or slap. You may also relish the physical effect of seeing a temporary mark left on your lover’s butt, thigh or leg due to the punishment you have dished out.

Whipping, slapping or spanking your lover’s butt, thigh or legs will also heighten the nerve endings in the targeted area, making your lover’s skin much more responsive to stroking, licking, biting, nibbling and scratching after it has been struck with a whip or paddle.

But before you start experimenting with different toys, remember that you should never strike your lover anywhere other than on their fleshy parts and never strike them in the face. You should also test out how hard you use your toy on your own hand first before turning it on your partner.

If you and your partner are just starting out with BDSM activities such as whipping, you should steer clear of one-tail whips to begin with because these generate the most pain as the single-tail has direct impact with the skin and can actually cause legions and welts if hit too hard against your lover’s body.

Until you both build-up your pain thresholds, go for a multi-tail whip such as the Joyce Jones Cat O Nine-tails whip, the Leather Whip With Handle, the Sportsheets Rubber Whip or the Rubber Whip 10-inch with plenty of rubber fronds to spread the impact.

When nothing but a single-tail or ‘hard plastic’ whip will do, go for the Dildo Whip, which features a generous six-inch dildo and 24-inch crop, or the devilishly naughty Hand Whip, which will leave a red-hot handprint on your lover’s backside or any other fleshy part you wish to punish!

Whip your partner into shape and spank your way to a sizzling sex life by using a combination of spanking and whipping as part of your sexual activities.

Note: When whipping someone, be careful. Heavy whipping is usually done on the back or ass, simply because those are the parts of the body which can take it most readily. Be careful of hitting the spine, which can break the skin where the vertebrae come close to the surface. Stay away from the kidneys, as kidney damage can occur if you hit them too hard. Stay away from the neck, for the same reasons you avoided the spine.

See also Bondage:

Power Exchange - BDSM